There are so many directions that my mind can go to when thinking back on this year. Sweet Arielle was born June 11, 2014. Her big brother at the time was 4 1/2. Now, to us, this age difference actually was a GREAT thing. Big brother was so helpful. But in the midst of having the previous experience of having one child for 4 1/2 years to myself and me to himself….their was some major adjustments that I both failed at and then days that really seemed to go well. So instead of going over the icky…this recap will be a list of things I know will be uplifting and healing.
1. I am the Best Mom for my kids! God gave me these adorable little sweeties. I may not always feel like Mommy of the Year everyday but I know that because I am their mom I really do strive for the good and I choose to focus on those things.
2. Drop the phone! Put away the remote. I only have this small window to make the most of this sweet time with my little ones. I use to put the television on for noise…then it became oh a few cartoons would be nice to keep my son occupied while I helped with my newborn. Then their were days that it was most of the day. Oh and don’t get me started on my phone issues. lol. How come Facebook is so darn addicting? Why do I need to know what so and so is doing? I don’t.
3. Listen up! Your kid is talking! Gavin has a lot to say. I mean a LOT. Most of the time it’s so out there and goes on forever that my brain kinda loses focus. But I realized that those things that I found random and out there are “really important” to him and I can’t risk losing his sweet heart because I didn’t find important what he did. I started to engage myself in his world of what I still feel as randomness and embraced it. It’s more fun to see his eyes light up because I am actually listening to him.
4. All kids have their own personalities. That is something that I had to learn. Gavin is this easy going sweetheart…where my sweet Arielle is her own kind of sweet. hehe. She is sweet…but in her own time…in her own space…and that is just the way it is. I tried, at first, to mold her into what I thought she should be and that proved to be So difficult which in turn made for some very long and horrible days. So I learned to just go with it. Not always fun…but sure beats those crying fits and no way to turn it around days.
5. Grace…give yourself some. No Mom is perfect! If you think you found a perfect mom…well it just isn’t true. Messing up is part of figuring out how to get things right…come on, we are all trying to figure this life out and all the while trying to do what we feel is best for the little worlds we live in. Forget what is behind and strive for better days cause this Mom business is a GREAT calling.
6. Enjoy the now! My baby number 2 is almost a year now….My baby number 1 is 5 1/2. That went by like the blink of an eye. We aren’t promised tomorrow but we have now. The past is then…in the past…behind…gone. I can’t sit and think about what’s to come and ignore the now. It’s a good time….It’s in the now…it’s happening. I have the best kids…they may not be the best behaved when you get to see them…but they are mine and I choose to live with them in the now and not in day dream land or past dwelling land.
Thank you Lord for this sweet time and it’s precious moments. I choose to think on these.